Great marriages never happen by accident – Betty Irabor

Publisher and media personality, Betty Irabor, has taken to social media to share her two cents on marriage.

In a post shared on her Instagram page, the mum of two stated that although she has been married for almost four decades, she is not an expert in the institution. She however mentioned that great marriages never happen by accident, but ‘’because the couples involved decide to make it work as long as no one’s life is at risk from the other.”

 She wondered what a person like her can teach to a generation that does not believe in marriage. 

She wrote;

‘’I get many messages requesting that I host sessions on Marriage and how I have stayed married for close to 4 decades. I would have easily acceded to this legion of requests but how do you sit down to talk about marriage to people whose marriage agenda do not align with yours?

How do you address people who already have a very “woke” mindset about marriage—people who see marriage as a disposable commodity?…People who already have plans B, C and D even as they exchange their vows; people who are not accountable to anyone. People who want to be both single and married in the same breath?

I have been married for close to 40 years, yes but I am no where close to being an expert in that institution. What I have is experience and the lessons from such experiences. I had no role models or “couples goals” to fashion my marriage after.

My parents were divorced and I was raised by a single mother. I simply entered my new role as a wife with the determination & commitment to make it work.

How do I address people who see my type as dinosaurs with an old-school mentality? What do old people like us know anyway(s) to come and impact a different generation with a progressive outlook on love, relationships, faith and marriage?

Great marriages never happen by accident; they happen because the couples involved decide to make it work as long as no one’s life is at risk from the other.

Today I celebrate these phenomenal couples who are not necessarily out to change any narrative on marriage but are just out there owning their own narratives and relishing in what they have built together.

Here are some useful gems from these 4 couples who have been married for over a decade. They are not asking to be anyone’s couple’s goals; they are just living their best lives

I also celebrate every couple doing life together quietly ….”